Why do your kids act like they do? Is it their upbringing? Is it genetic? Yes, a little of both. From an article in the NYT they say ~
When he was growing up, she explained, he fought frequently with other children, had few close friends, and had a reputation for being mean. She always hoped he would change, but now that he was almost 17, she had a sinking feeling.
Ahhhh my poor parents ...... wait! No that wasn't them .... I don't think it was anyway.
“The central pitch of any child psychiatrist now is that the illness is often in the child and that the family responses may aggravate the scene but not wholly create it,” said my colleague Dr. Theodore Shapiro, a child psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical College. “The era of ‘there are no bad children, only bad parents’ is gone.”
See, I knew there were rotten kids. Now I have scientific proof.
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How many times have I heard my wife say to Aaron, "You're just like your dad!"--like it's a bad thing?
That wasn't a very nice read :P
I mentioned it to my mom and her response was "Thats why I told you to try for a girl.". If the article is right, there can be bad female seeds too!
Cam's recent neuropsych eval included testing for likelihood of some pretty nasty things (i.e. drug/alcohol abuse, depression, suicide, etc). I can definitely see how certain personality types are more prone to "undesirable" behaviors and I've certainly seen - first hand - how a home environment can aggravate those.
Although the article was pretty negative, I believe the converse is true too - that there can be success when there is early identification and support.
I have no doubt there are rotten kids. Lots and lots and lots of 'em.
Whew Thank god...I'm off the hook!
J - I was going to mention something but I just couldn't bring myself to do it.
A - Don't worry. Someone will come out with a counter article soon with an exact opposite opinion.
D - The best way to give someone a bad attitude is tell them they've got one.
J - So you met those guys I knew too!
RW - See, it's not your fault.
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